Dating after loss of husband

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I haven't been active on mn for a while, but I find myself with no-one IRL to ask. Also, like they might judge me for thinking about this so soon. We were together for 18 years, right from Uni, married for 15. (Both freelancers in creative fields who work on several projects at a time - this is the only one where our involvement overlaps.) This particular project is very personal to me, as it touches on loss and grief, and our e-conversations became quite deep and I felt like we clicked, and would perhaps become friends.

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The coworker who was back to work smiling only a few days after her Dad died?

She was crying every day on the way to and from work.

One weekend a month for me, which I usually spend in a B&B on the coast, reading and running.)And another also. Or would that look unprofessional, with this project? Could I in the meantime at least ask her if he's as nice as he seems? And that life is really busy - but you wondered if he wanted to meet for a drink?

He thinks I'm not dating, and I don't know how I'd let him know that I might be interested in dating (him). Tell him that you haven't dated yet and have no idea how you feel about doing so, so you're suggesting a drink rather than a date - and just see how it goes.

But expectations are a big part of our mindset, even when we’re not in the stages of grief.

How much more do we enjoy the movie or party that we thought was going to be terrible?On Friday evening we met for the first time, at the official launch of the project.There were a lot of people there, and I'm not gregarious (especially as this was the first big event I've gone along to since everything, and am still receiving some awkward condolences) and he clearly is outgoing. I've done no work since the school run this morning, just written a list of all the reasons why pursuing this would be a bad idea.How disappointed are we when a long planned vacation-of-a-lifetime turns out to be not all what we would have hoped?If ever there was a time when we need to be setting realistic expectations for ourselves, then certainly our time of grieving is one of them. Don’t compare yourself with those whom you know have had a loss.But we ended up chatting in a corner for nearly an hour, couldn't stop talking. He's so tall, and his eyes are so blue, and I'd forgotten how nice it is to smell an attractive man, and listen to a deep voice... Then we were interrupted and chatted to other people, though I kept looking over and seeing him smiling at me. I had to leave to catch last train home while event was in full swing, and was too shy to go over and say goodbye. (He doesn't have kids, and is I think a few years younger than me.

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